If you haven’t done it yet, check out The Choose Love Project.
Go ahead, click the link, I’ll wait. *hums*
My whole self zinged when I heard about this project and I knew that I needed to be involved. I’m so glad & honored that Rachel Cole and Lori Race agreed. My journey towards an Uncontained Life, all started when I chose Love. I chose to love my body, love my spirit, love my quirky personality and to even love my shadow.
Why I Joined the Choose Love Project: Reason #1
The path of love is revolutionary. For the first two decades of my life, I believed that struggle and internal warring were the key to success. While loving myself sounded like a wonderful idea, I was afraid to embrace it. Deep inside, an insidious belief held my heart, mind and Soul hostage. I believed that if I chose to Love myself, I’d succumb to laziness. I really thought that the only thing moving me towards my goals was my self-hatred. Why would anyone be ambitious if they were content with where they are? I wondered.
I held on to the belief that I needed self-hate even when it led to depression. I even held on to it when it led to compulsive overeating. It was only when I reached one of my major life goals and was still miserable, that I realized that fear, shame and self-hate weren’t working. It was time to choose another way of being. As I’ve traveled this spiraling path to self-love, I realized that I wasn’t the only one who held on to shame as a motivator. The Choose Love Project, and my work with Uncontainable Living, are my way of helping others to find their own way to love.
Love is a much better catalyst than fear.
Why I Joined the Choose Love Project: Reason #2
I’m black. I’m a first generation American. I’m queer. I’m curvy. Every social identity group that I belong to has been plagued with a severe disconnect from their bodies. Yet, I’m typically the only person like me in most of the heart-centered movements I’ve been a part of. The only curvy woman in the yoga class. The only black person at the life-empowerment retreat. The only queer gal at the relationship workshop.
I’ve made a commitment to adding my voice to these conversations, so that others like me know that they’re not alone.
*waves* Hi, other black, first-gen, queer, curvy women. Nice to meet you!
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